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What does the Bible teach about sex before marriage?

What does the Bible teach about sex before marriage?

Is it a sin to live together before marriage?

The word fornication is mentioned approximately 32 times in the New Testament. The word carries the meaning of any type of sexual immorality. The Lord does not look at sexual immorality just as sin, but He sees the negative results to the individual.

  1. Sin results in separation from God

Rom 3:23 “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God”

James 4:17 “Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin.”

Isa 59:2 “But your iniquities have separated you from your God; And your sins have hidden His face from you, So that He will not hear.”

     2. Immorality abounds in the world and is facilitated by current cultural beliefs.

The Christian is to be in the world but not of the world. If the Christian is not of this world, then cultural norms are not the standard of living. The standard for all cultures should be God’s word.

John 17:14 “I have given them thy word; and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world.”

1 Peter 1:15-16

15 “but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct,

16 because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy.”

Eph 5:1 “Therefore be imitators of God as dear children.”

   3. Sexual immorality affects the individuals who perform it

Gal 5:19 “Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness…”

Eph 5:3 “But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints”

Col 3:5 “Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry”

Prov 6:32 “Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul.”

Prov 6:32 “But whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks heart and understanding (moral principle and prudence); he who does it is destroying his own life” AMP

Prov 6:26 “…an adulteress will prey upon his precious life”

The destruction or ruin of the soul is related to the outcome of one’s life. Sexual immorality annihilates the goodness of God to bring about a life that is filled with the Lord’s glory.

Matt 15:19-20

19 “For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.

20 These are the things which defile a man, but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile a man.”

The defilement that Jesus refers to means, unclean, and what is unacceptable to God because of personal sin.

Rom 6:12 “Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts.”

Personal sin can be enjoyable for a season. Moses’ faith caused him to suffer affliction rather than to enjoy sin (Heb 11:25).

   4. The choice becomes will I believe God’s word and take steps to obey

Acts 17:30 “Truly, these times of ignorance God overlooked, but now commands all men everywhere to repent”

1 Sam 15:22 “Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice…”

Jer 11:4 “Obey My voice, and do according to all that I command you; so shall you be My people, and I will be your God”

Jer 7:23 “Obey My voice, and I will be your God, and you shall be My people. And walk in all the ways that I have commanded you, that it may be well with you.”

Rom 13:14 “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

   5. Making it to heaven is not to be a goal. Becoming like Jesus is to be a desire that is followed that will result in His character being developed in the Christian

Rom 8:29 “For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son”

Eph 1:4 “just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love”

Eph 4:24 “and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.”

1 John 3:2 “Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him…”

   6. The Lord will judge all sexual immorality

Heb 13:4 “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge”

Prov 5:3-4

3 “For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil;

4 But in the end she is bitter as wormwood…”

1 Cor 6:9-10

9 “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites,

10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.”

1 Cor 6:18-20

18 “Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.

19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself,

20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” NLT

Rev 21:27 “But there shall by no means enter it (the New Jerusalem) anything that defiles, or causes an abomination or a lie, but only those who are written in the Lamb’s Book of Life.”

   7. God’s appeal

1 Peter 2:11-12

11 “Beloved, I beg you as sojourners and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul,

12 having your conduct honorable”

Eph 5:3 “Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people.” NLT

1 Cor 7:1-2

1 “It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.”

 

Some additional verses related to sexual immorality (fornication):

Matt 5:32; Matt 19:9; Acts 15:20,29; 21:25; Rom 1:29; 1 Cor 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 1 Thes 4:3; Jude 7; Rev 2:14,20-21